I really like a saying from Sanmao: "The road is composed of feet and each other." Feet "means that the road is made with feet, and" each "means that everyone has their own path.

A person's life will be shaped by the path they choose to take. The biggest obstacle to moving forward is not poverty, but internal friction within themselves. Instead of being consumed by internal friction all day long, it is better to use time to improve oneself.

Quitting the following three types of internal friction is the beginning of a person's uphill journey.

1. Quit negative emotions

I once saw a question on Zhihu: "What ability do you think is the most important

One of the highly praised responses is: "The ability to control emotions." Emotions are not right or wrong, only uncontrolled emotions can make us unable to extricate ourselves. Learning to regulate emotions is a compulsory course for adults.

When browsing videos online, I saw a video of a 95 year old rheumatoid arthritis girl self-learning clay dolls, which deeply touched me.

The girl fell ill at the age of 7 and has been relying on medication to sustain her life. The only thing she can move all over her body is her fingers, and apart from that, almost all of her joints are broken. It is said that a single pull can move her whole body, and even drinking a glass of water is torture for the girl. When a girl's heart starts to fail, she doesn't know how much longer she can live, and her heart is filled with guilt towards her parents and confusion about her own life. Her emotions once became depressed, not knowing when the Grim Reaper would come to her.

Over a year ago, she started self-learning clay dolls through online videos and began accepting orders online. She is busy from 7am to 10pm every day, and in the process of busyness, she finds hope in life.

From the interview video, it can be seen that her heart is calm and full of strength, and there is no trace of her past emotions on her face. Faced with different difficulties, we will show different emotions. Truly mature people will know how to adjust negative emotions in a timely manner and face life in a better state.

Eleanor Roosevelt once said, "No one can control your emotions unless you agree

Not bringing negative emotions to others is a true cultivation of a person. Similarly, not keeping negative emotions for oneself is a person's love for oneself. When you can control your emotions well, you can also gain insight into others' hearts and handle interpersonal relationships around you.

2. Quit ineffective socializing

Effective social interaction helps us grow continuously; On the contrary, ineffective socializing will consume our energy and time.

Writer Li Shanglong once told his story. When he was in college, he loved socializing very much and spent most of his time attending dinners, parties, and so on. In the process of chatting with others, he gained the contact information of those talented people and big shots. He felt that those people were his connections and resources, and he often sent gifts to those people to express his feelings.

Until later, when he encountered problems at work, he called those "friends", but little did he know that they were all perfunctory.

He finally realized that those so-called friends were not actually his own network, so he often rejected useless social interactions and devoted his energy and time to his close friends.

Instead of letting those 'ineffective' friends consume our time, it's better to invest time in those who are worth it.

In life, many of us are "socially kidnapped" and unable to break free from the vicious circle of socializing.

I really like a saying: "A person's level of happiness often depends on how willing they are to detach themselves from the external world." Socializing is like investing, you need to consider which basket to put it in in in order to have how much income.

The reason why a person becomes better and better is because they invest their time in worthwhile things. When you learn to make choices, your social value will also increase.

3. Quit material desires

There is a Mr. Hu in Yishu's novel 'Youyou My Heart'.

He was born into a poor family and through his continuous efforts, he became the manager of the bank's finance department with an annual salary of one million. He has a happy family, a beautiful wife, and a well behaved daughter.

However, he feels that he should have a better life. So he began to indulge in more material possessions, even embezzling public funds to buy high-end red wine and branded watches. After the incident was exposed, he was sent to prison. After his wife discovered his situation, she chose to leave.

A family that should have been happy and fulfilled fell apart due to Mr. Hu's actions.

In life, there are many people like Mr. Hu who have a good income and a happy family. If Mr. Hu can restrain his desires, he may live a very happy life.

Schopenhauer said, "The so-called glorious life is nothing but a prisoner of desire." When you immerse yourself in the material world and cannot extricate yourself, it is like falling into a swamp, getting deeper and deeper, and finally losing yourself.

The book "Psychology of Desire" mentions the "desire happiness" curve. When a person's desires decrease, their happiness index will increase.

Life is a journey of discarding the dross and preserving the essence, and we need to learn to make choices between spiritual and material aspects. When your material life becomes simpler, you will have more time to fill your spiritual world. As a person's inner world becomes more and more abundant, they will also become more and more excellent.

Kawabata Yasunari once said, "Time flows through everyone in the same way, but everyone spends time in different ways

Where you spend your time, your growth is there.