Advanced emotional intelligence is the ability to maintain respect and patience towards the most familiar and close people

Actually, understanding a person's emotional intelligence is very simple, it depends on their attitude towards their family. Because in front of his family, he will show the most authentic side. If a person is friendly to their family, then their attitude towards outsiders around them will not be bad. A good temper outside may just be a smoothness in dealing with people; A good mood at home is a rare emotional intelligence for a person.

For families, one person's negative emotions can affect the emotions of everyone in the family. People with high emotional intelligence will not bring emotions into their homes.

Late the night before yesterday, I ran into my neighbor Lao Zhang standing downstairs smoking a stuffy cigarette. He smiled wryly and said, "Work has been a bit tough lately, and I'm feeling a bit annoyed. I'm taking it slow downstairs, otherwise my wife and children would be worried." A person with high emotional intelligence and good manners will digest stress and emotions outside the house.

In life, if we can bring home some of the gentle treatment towards outsiders, we will definitely have unexpected gains. Originally a sentence of blame, changing the way and perspective, considering the other person, will make people feel very comfortable.

As the saying goes, home is just a small space. If it is filled with resentment, it cannot hold warmth and love. If we can be tolerant and considerate towards our families, then there will be half fewer complaints from each other in the family.

Some people say, "It's easy for children to buy cars or houses for their parents if they have the means, but the hardest thing to do is not give them a face." The most difficult thing in getting along with parents is the word "difficult to look at". The higher the emotional intelligence of a person, the more they know how to treat their family well. Home is a harbor of love and warmth, the dust on the feet should stay outside the door, and so should the dust in the heart.

Knowing how to listen is also a form of high emotional intelligence.

I have seen such a story before. A very successful salesman said that there was one thing in the early stages of his job that would benefit him for life. In that sales promotion, just as he was about to sign a contract with the client, they suddenly changed their mind. He was unwilling and went to the address provided by the client to inquire about the reason. The client saw that he was sincere and told the truth: "Your failure was that you didn't listen to me. Just before I was about to sign the contract, I mentioned that my only son was about to go to college, and he also had outstanding sports achievements and future aspirations. I am proud of him. But you turned around and talked to someone on the phone, and I changed my mind when I got angry

This remark awakened him, and in the future, when facing customers, whether it is related to sales or not, he will listen carefully to them finish speaking, which has gained him more trust and ultimately become a "myth" in the sales world.

Unlike expressing oneself, listening can sometimes be more like a kind choice. When someone has the same amount of things to say in their heart, they choose to remain silent and listen to their friends confide first. These people have one thing in common, which is strong empathy. They know how to step out of themselves and feel and think from the perspective of others.

There is a saying that goes, "It takes us a year to learn how to speak, but a lifetime to learn how to shut up." Many people are teaching you how to speak with high emotional intelligence, but few are teaching you how to listen. In fact, learning to be a listener and understanding others is precisely the first step towards effective communication.

I hope each of us can learn to be an emotionally stable person, a good listener, and progress together with those around us!